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If you’re into someone with Venus in Cancer, know that you’ll be dealing with a mother and child. She can be incredibly tender, loving and empathetic, intuiting your most basic needs. But before you can access her empathy, you must convince her inner child that you’re safe.
The Shell
If you’re not sure how to approach Venus in Cancer, picture her curled up inside a protective shell. Hence her initial shyness, even if she seems friendly enough on the surface. You don’t smash your way into the shell with aggressive moves. Rather, you approach gently, coaxing her to open up with evidence that you can be trusted. She’s attracted to people with whom she can form a secure and loving relationship. You’ll know you’ve hit the right note if she starts to offer care and concern, like a gentle shoulder squeeze when you’re feeling down. If she listens to your problems or offers the exact thing you need in the moment (a hug, a phrase that makes you feel better, a cup of coffee) it’s a good bet that she likes you back. Physical contact is huge — Venus in Cancer does not touch someone unless she wants to get closer. Bonus if she shares some things about her childhood; this means she’s feeling secure enough to let you in.
Let’s say all of the above has happened, and you’re heading out on your first “date.” Go slow. It may not be a date, just yet. If she’s offered to cook for you or let you cry on her shoulder, this does not necessarily mean she wants anything romantic. She’s so hardwired to be the mother that she will nurture you, even if her feelings are strictly platonic.
You won’t know what the deal is until she makes the first move. Even then, it’s tricky. She’s a Cardinal sign, so she’s inclined to start things. But she’s so self-protective that she starts things indirectly. She won’t pounce on you. You’ll have to pick up on her hints, like increased physical contact with flirtatious undertones. If you move too fast, she’ll shut down. But you’ll probably have to make some kind of move. Things don’t progress in a straight line with Venus in Cancer; it’s all about how she’s feeling in the moment. Sex will probably not be a first-date thing, because it takes time for her to warm up. But once you get to the point where you and she are intimate, it’s a safe bet that she’ll want a relationship with you. It’s very difficult for her to have casual sex, because she’s vulnerable once she’s let you in.
Inside The Shell
Life with Venus in Cancer will be emotional. His sign is ruled by the Moon, so his desires and expressions of love will fluctuate. He’ll be in mother mode most of the time as he nourishes you and creates a cozy, domestic paradise. But he can also slide back into child mode. It doesn’t take much to trigger his insecurities, and he may expect you to intuit what he wants, just as he is able to sense what you want. The trouble is, most people aren’t as sensitive as he is. So if he pouts or withdraws, it’s probably because you haven’t fulfilled one of his unspoken needs. This is where it’s important to establish open lines of communication, and let him know that you’re more than willing to make him happy — but you’re not a mind reader.
However, even when he’s in a secure relationship, Venus in Cancer will mix love with high emotion. He is not cool and detached, even when he appears to have it all under control. So you’d better be comfortable with random surges of tears, laughter and love. And, he probably has a strong attachment to his family, or at least the memory of his family. Whether or not his childhood was a happy one, it will play a major role in the relationship. He may want to start a family with you, consisting of children, pets or a close circle of friends.
The domestic relationship you build with Venus in Cancer will be sacred. This is where he must feel safe. So the quickest way to destroy the relationship is to damage the safety of his domestic environment. There are many ways you can do this. You can cheat on him, spend a lot of time away from home, or disrespect his domestic rituals. Your frequent outbursts of anger or emotional detachment will also do the trick. Anything that makes him feel he is no longer secure in his home and relationship will trigger his shield and send him out the door. You’ve seen his soft side, but don’t underestimate his ability to protect himself.
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